What are we to do?

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What are we to do when things are falling apart? When the world we so dearly love is coming to an end? When the people we most believe in are letting us down?

What are we to do when our generation is throwing away their future? When the lives of our beloved are wasted on war? What are we to do when we cannot rely on each other? When our people kill each other? When we can no longer rely on each other?

What we have we become in this world? Why are we turning against each other? Everyday we see people suffering with diseases and sicknesses, other are homeless and hungry. Unemployment keeps rising everyday. Hunger is becoming a norm in other people’s lives, pain and suffering is a daily thing in some families. What are we to do when we can’t even trust ourselves?

There is nothing else left to do but to re-build our relationship with the one who created us. We have no where else to run to, no place to hide and we simply cannot sit back and ignore the signs. The world is no the same anymore. Things have changed and are changing. We have to do something. What will we tell the next generation when they ask us what happened to the world?

We have nothing else left to do but to turn to the one with power, the one who gave us this world and life. We must all turn to each other and become one. Our world needs us, all races, religions  and cultures . Our world really needs us!!

We are afraid of the wrong things

From the day we are born our parents teach us the right ways live our lives. They teach us how to respect elders and how important education is because we are afraid of wrong things. They teach us to choose the right people in our lives to think before we make important decisions.

We do not know when something is wrong until we make that mistake. We shouldn’t be scared of doing the wrong things because they make us who we are. They teach us the value of life and the importance of learning everyday.  It believes that is important to go through life stages and make mistakes. We should not lock ourselves in a room away from people and the world because we are afraid of doing the wrong things. We should live life to the fullest and learn from all the journeys we take. What would life be without wrongs and mistakes?  Would life be the same if everything we did was right? To me life is what we make it out to be and that is doing everything one wants to do with no limitations but learning from every mistake.

When I was younger I was so afraid of making mistakes and that some how that blocked me from  doing what mostly young people do because I was afraid of doing the wrong thing. However as I grow older I realized that being me and doing fun fulfilling youthful things does not necessarily mean I will do something wrong and yes I did do things that other people regard as wrong but I do not regret anything. I learnt from making my mistakes and one day when I have my own kids I will allow them to be who they are and to do everything they want with no limitations but I will also make sure that they understand what wrong is and how they can learn from their mistakes. Life is about learning after all…..that’s my motto.

winter moonlight for my love

The rain, so peaceful and tranquil,
caressed by the soft moonlight,
gave magical feelings to the night.

The soft blue glow,
the lovers' words that then did flow,
our lips closer and closer
until, locked in the throes
of a passionate embrace,
he decided to express his feelings,
to keep me safe.

He whispered softly,
his words like music to my ears,
"I Love You,"
and my response the same,
heard like the gentle breeze,
"And I, love you, forever."

That was the night we resoluted
to be together through everything,
each to care for the other when old and gray.
We may not have instantly claimed to love each other

For ever but we certainly loved the company we kept
A lovers' pact
the most likely to last.

fish falling from the sky

I was weirded  out this other day when I read an article about fish from the sky. I have never imagined anything like that. It was a long time ago though in India. people were picking up fish that were falling on the ground.  there were also reports of fish rain from Singapore and in north Sydney Australia.

In 1956 Alabama a couple was sitting outside when a dark cloud formed and and when it was overhead it started pouring live fish then turned white and disappeared. I keep asking myself how did all this happen. How do fish randomly fall from the sky?

I still wonder even today what would I do if fish would start falling from the sky? I know this all happened many years ago but with all the global worming and world coming to an end topics I start to wonder if maybe its messages from the one above. I know other people don't think like I do but how random is it to hear about fish falling from the sky? its not candy, its not soda but fish, live fish. Maybe I just paranoid but I would love to hear what you have to say about this.  :-)

What is the colour of the wind?

Sitting in my bedroom next to my window.  The wind blowing so hard. It took me back to my childhood days when I was a little girl very sacred of wind and rain. My parents always knew how to make me forget of the scary wind. I would watch my father put on music in the lounge and singing to himself. Slowly he would dance walking towards my room with a smile in his eyes and joy.  My mother standing by the corner of the kitchen with a dish cloth in her hands she’d look at me with a big smile and say “yes baby, get on up and dance with your father”.

The music playing beautifully and the sweet sounds coming into my ears I would get on up hold my father’s hands with my tiny little hands. I’d step on his feet and allow him to move me with the rhythm. My tiny body would move from the right to the left, right to left and I would close my eyes and visualize myself dancing ballet in a stage full of people, I would allow the music to take me to places I have never been, I would do moves I have never done and I would fly up high, the music would lift me up and the wind would move me around.

Oh when the song ends I would be holding on so tight to my father and I would ask him to play another song  so that the scary sounds of the wind would not scare me and my father would say baby listen to the wind like you are listening to your favorite song and close your eyes and picture yourself dancing on stage and slowly I learnt to listen to the sounds of the wind and every time I was dancing to its sounds I would change its colours too. I learnt to love the sounds of the wind and today I can listen to it and visualize its colours. The wind has no colours but it can be any colour you want in the world.

if I were the boss

Oh this has always been a dream of mine and it still is, being the boss.  It all sounds so easy but it is not all fun and games. In my dreams I always see myself as a fun, understanding and friendly boss who has a strong relationship with employees. But it takes a lot of dedication and hard work to be a good boss.  

Being boss is not something you can copy or imitate. You have to be passionate and open to learn. In 2011 I was doing my internship and I had the worst time of my life. In the first months of my internship everything was going so well. We were very close with my supervisor. There was also a possibility that I could get a permanent post at the company. We were very pleased with each other, but things suddenly turned for the worst. I would get threatened when ever I made a mistake and some days would be better and other would be worse. 

I became scared of my own supervisor. the moods swings were taking turns . I would be criticized for everything I did. What made things worse was I would sit in that office with nothing to do the whole day but I would be told that I do not do my work. I was there to learn but It felt like I was being punished. I started hating the industry I had loved so much, I wanted to drop everything and forget my dream. Lucky I had  very supportive background and I told myself that this was just a learning curve. Not all bosses are going to breath fire. But one thing I did learn was that I WERE THE BOSS, I would be the best boss there is!! seriously!!

 

effects of divorce on children

I now pronounce you  husband and wife...........

happily married, everything going well then suddenly sitting at a corner of a restaurant on valentines day the lady whispers to her husband "I'm done, I want a divorce".  OK now sop there, yes right there.

when people get married they marry for love and they decide they want to start a family and during this time everything seems smooth and easy. But when does one decide its over? at that moment whose is thinking about the children, the family they both wanted so much. of course no one because they both caught up in their own feelings and hatred they have for each other. on the other hand the kids are left feeling guilty and unwanted. the kids are always the ones who suffer the most in a divorce or a break.

Divorces have long term effects on children like emotional pain and suffering. mostly children feel that it's their fault that the parents are divorcing. They feel that they will not be like other kids with normal families. insecurities also have an impact because the family will be split and the children will have to go to different schools and start new friends and they worry about their parents bot being together ot meeting their parent's new partners.

Anger and depression is also another effect. They become angry at the world, with their parents and with themselves this results in children being depressed. because so much is going on and they do not quit understand why and some end up bottling things inside and all the problems keep building up

There is a high rate of divorces in many marriages and more than anyone else the kids get to suffer the most.

for more effects of divorce on children go to : www.children-and-divorce.com

Two people come out of a building and into a story

It’s a cold winter evening in Cape Town. A young couple is sitting in front of a fire place covered in blankets and enjoying each other’s company.  Outside the snow is getting heavy and in the news the weather report announces that people should stay inside as they cannot drive in the snow. Flights are cancelled and trains are delayed.

John who had gotten up to make coffee walks back into the lounge holding the two coffee mugs in his hands stand by the door starring at his beautiful girlfriend with a big smile and says “what a beautiful way to spend the day with you my love… with a smile in her eyes and her heart pounding with joy and love she looks up and calls invites him to sit next to her.  John with no hesitation hands her the coffee and sits right next to her. Lisa holds his hands and looks him in the eye and smiles, still looking him in the eye she whispers in his ear and says” its hard for me when you are away on business for two months but I married a successful man and I have to understand”, John interrupts her but she continues “John I love you with all my heart and I am grateful for having you in my life, don’t know what I would ever do without you”.

John moves his eyes away from hers and tells her to drink her coffee before it gets cold. He changes the topic and he gets up to change the channel on TV. His phone rings and he go the other room to answer it, whispering on the phone he says Linda I can’t talk now I’m in a meeting call me later but the person on the other line doesn’t stop talking and John starts shouting “I can’t talk right now”, Lisa enter the room asking who is that my love and quickly John puts away the phone and kisses her.

An hour later John makes an excuse to leave the house because he is needed in Johannesburg at work  because of a crisis and he is going to the airport to see if he cannot make a plan to get there this evening and Lisa insists on driving him to the airport and he agrees.  After he’s packed his small luggage he puts his coat on and walks towards Lisa who was standing  opposite the bed he kneels down and puts his head on her tummy and says “hey son I cannot wait till you get, I have been waiting  for you but please be nice to mommy till I come back. We are going to have so much fun together” he kisses the pregnant belly and gets up to kiss Lisa. They take the luggage and walk towards the door. Down the hallway into the lobby they are walking hand in hand, they get to the entrance of the building and outside the door. John holds Lisa close to his chest and kisses her and rubs her belly again as they walk towards the parking a Black range rover opened and a woman walked out with tears and calls his name. To his shock he knew who she was and asked what she was doing there.  Linda was crying already and said “I asked Michael where you were and he told me, so is this what you do when you are working?” when he tried to interrupt her she did not want to hear it and Lisa asked “John what’s going on? Who is this” and Linda replied “I’m his wife and I came to tell him that I finally am pregnant with the baby boy he has always wanted but I’m sure he doesn’t need us anymore”.

John was quite and didn’t know what to do and the two women were fighting on the side. Thinking to himself about the boy he’s always wanted and how he had messed things up and he walks towards the women to break then up, he touches Linda on her shoulders and with anger she slaps him across the faces and runs up the road but she didn’t look before she crossed and got hit by a car pulling out the parking lot. The sky turned dark for John and it started snowing hard.  John’s dream had become his nightmare……..

How hard is it to follow instructions?

Following instructions has become the most difficult activity in everyone’s life. I find that it’s not easy to follow instructions whether on paper or in person. In todays live we have to follow instructions in everything we do. When buying a new cellphone the user guide comes with instructions or that washing machine you have always wanted for your brand new kitchen comes with instruction.

When I spoke to a couple of friends of mine and asked what is it that makes it hard to follow instruction I found that they did not have a specific answer opposed to following instruction but they insisted that they do not like following instruction. A few of them kept on saying that they have no problem following instruction as long as it does not stand in their way of making their own decisions and choices.

I figured that I also have nothing against following instructions because instructions are there for a reason. They are meant to give us guidelines in what ever we are doing. I don’t think they are meant to limit us in anyway to but they give us a preview of the outcomes of what we do.  To become a better person and to be excellent in anything you do you should be able to I take instructions and apply them and also be able to go the extra mile to perfect everything you do. Following instruction is a responsibility.  

Fat or thin what am I to do ?

growing up I was always told by people about how beautiful I am, how soft and silky my skin is. every girl my age wanted to have my slim beautiful body. they all wanted the discipline I had when it came to eating healthy and engaging in sports.

 Things changed when  I enrolled in University.  I had never had problems with my weight until one day I couldn't fit into my favorite pair of jeans.  I hadn't notice how big I had become. All i wished for was to have some curves here and a bit of bum there. I wanted to look like a woman with an apple bottom.

It was so hard for me to look in the mirror and see the same person I was. I had become so big, ugly and oily skinned. starving myself was the only solution. Some days I'd go without eating at all and some I would wake up to a tub of frozen yoghurt followed by left over  pizza down with large glass of soda. 5 minutes later I'm rushing through the hall way to the bathroom to empty my tummy. I had become an enemy to my own self. I smiled for an hour and cried for weeks. food would comfort me for only a short time then I would regret ever eating.

Today I'm 24 years old and I still have problems with my weight. I had tried to accept my problem but everyday I meet an old friend I am reminded of how big I am. The worst part of it all was being ask how far along I was with my pregnancy.....that just killed me inside. I wanted to die that minute.

What am I to do? I have tried every diet, every method, every exercise, starvation, hot water, lemon water nothing works. I am still told I am fat and I still die inside everyday. Society has a lot of influence on people sometimes because when I was slim (size 26) I was told I'm too thing I must gain weight and now I'm a 32 going to 34 and still people tell me to lose weight. what am I to do?